His goal was to lose a bit of fat around the stomach area and he mentioned that although he has not been on the scales in a while, he has had comments from people that he looks slimmer and has had further testament from the fact that a pair of jeans he could NOT fit a year ago now fit again!
I guess the question here is does it really matter what number you are on the scales? I mean do you really take your scales with you and show others what you weigh when you want to show them how much you have achieved?
Probably not... unless you have some kind of pocket sized scales set.... It is probably more likely that your friends and family will notice first and say to you that you look like you have lost weight. Isn't this a better outcome than telling them the new number that you weigh.
I try to help my clients focus on the outcome they really want. I ask them if it is the number on the scales they want or the comments from others that notice how great you look. ALL want to hear it from someone else that they are looking better!
I guess one thing that is really cool about looking good is that you then start to feel good.
Most of the time your friends and family can tell; in the way you present yourself, in the way your face glows or in the way you seem to ooze confidence. That's what I've found to be the real outcome that people want. They want to feel confident around others because they realise that the more confidence they have the more they can do - it's all about believing in yourself and what you can do.
Most have heard this quote before:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure."
I suppose this post then brings up the question - why do so many of us really care so much about what other people think of us? I was talking to a friend about that yesterday actually on the way home from Otaki but that's a whole new blog all on its own!!
